Standing tall beside a crossroad, three wooden statues like this are found. It was in summer of this year. It is a sign of hospitality to welcome guests with flowers as shown in this statue. But what confused me was the the facial expression. Why the knot on the brow? Oh, I forgot, I'm in Russia. Here, people don't smile.
Why are they not smiling? If you ask them, they'll give you a handful of reasons. Wars, weather, difficult life, etc... and oh, they said if you smile often, people will think you're crazy. Some told me smile is not taken as an honest gesture, while others justified it as a Soviet propaganda which still remains in the mind of those who were raised that time.
When I was new here, I found it quite bothersome to walk around the city surrounded with grim faces. I simply was not used to it. Eventually, I've learned to live with it. There is no need to put into question their not smiling. I've accepted it the way it is. However in accepting, I do not mean I was converted into their reasons and explanations. I have a different view about smiling. The people I've talked with may also not be convinced with my views but at least we let each other be the way we are.
Hi Mari! Thanks for stopping at my blog. It's nice to meet another Mari spelled with an i. There's not too many of us. :)
ReplyDeleteThe not smiling thing is interesting. I can see that would take time to get used to.
wow. i would have a very hard time with that! i smile all the time - my smile is my greatest inheritance (i got it from my mother). :)
ReplyDeleteI've noticed a similar thing in some countries, except when I smile at them they usually break into a lovely smile themselves. Not always, but it's nice when they do.
ReplyDeleteThank you for visiting me.
I am so happy that you did not stop smiling. It takes fewer muscles to smile thatn to frown. I believe that the reason I have few wrinkles for my age is because I am happy and smile a lot. This is my first visit to Russia with you. I am having a great time.
ReplyDeleteI didn't know how people think about smile in Russia. It's very different.
ReplyDeleteSmile!!!!
ReplyDeleteI would not do well with this culture....but on the other hand my hubby would 'fit right in'. lol---kidding
I don't think that I could cope with no one smiling. When my daughter visited Russia her Russian friends thought it strange that she thanked people working in shops.
ReplyDeleteSending you a warm smile...
Thanks for your comment and warm smile :)
DeleteAs for smiling, yes it could be difficult to cope with. I'm not sure in which part of Russia your daughter went to but as far as I know, in the city I live in, people often say "spasibo" to people working in shops, cafes or public transport, after they have received a service or assistance.
I would have been puzzled by the grim faces too. I love to see people smile!
ReplyDelete"...if you smile often, people will think you're crazy. "
ReplyDeleteThis may not be a bad thing...
;-)